Hello dear reader!
I promised to post this a month ago, but did not so i’m doing it now. Still on the book ‘The Single Mothers Survival Guide’
WAYS TO NURTURE YOURSELF.
Remember I am blogging about the work of somebody else.
- I promise not to tell you to take a hot bath but, actually, it’s not such a bad idea…
- Read, re-read, use this [blog].
- Meditate. Lock your door, light a candle, get quiet. Even 5-10 minutes a day will help distress you.
- Be in nature whenever possible. You won’t believe how different things will appear to you after some fresh air and scenery.
- Anything creative is great. Sing out loud in the shower [bathroom performance]. Dance in the living room [live tour]. Get silly with your kids. Finger paint…
- Grow something: plants, flowers, herbs, vegetables. Anything will work. (the kid doesn’t count. You need to grow something that doesn’t talk back).
- Find someone to trade massages with every week.
- A new haircut, book, outfit, or facial___ something just for you at least twice a month. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just some sort of treat.
- Feed yourself well; get enough sleep, and do some form of exercise at least three times a week. I don’t care what it is: a walk, a run, skip rope___ join a gym, ride a bike, get a video. Just do it. THIS IS AN ORDER! [ from General Karst and Lt. colonel Joanna]
- Keep a journal. Even if you write for just a few minutes, here and there, it will bring you a wonderful sense of comfort and a place to get closer to yourself.
- Always have something to look forward to: a vacation, an outing, a party. This helps keep you hopeful and happy.
- [we] give you permission to be selfish occasionally and put yourself first. It really is okay (Martyrdom is passé anyway)
- Repeat after [us]:
“I am a goddess. I am a goddess. I am a goddess.” (let this be your mantra)
Laugh often. It’s the best thing going.
TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR SINGLE MUMS. [Approved by God, Gen. Karst, and me]
- THOU SHALT not be afraid to ask for help from anyone at any time (because the offers sure as hell won’t come in by themselves)
- THOU SHALT bring joy into your home no matter what, for joy is free and available to all.
- THOU SHALT realize that this too shall pass and try to enjoy and make the most out of your life. Sooner than you think, these children will be grown, and believe it or not, you will miss these years with them.
- THOU SHALT love thy children with all your heart, even when they are occasionally monsters [this is the greatest law]
- THOU SHALT develop a great sense of humor (if you don’t already have one). It is surely the only way you can survive.
- THOU SHALT believe with all your heart and with all your mind that poverty and single motherhood do not have to go hand in hand and that dreams can still come true (Now playing… I have a dream- ABBA J )
- THOU SHALT try not to speak ill about your ex in front of the kids, for, if you do so, it hurts their heart and soul. If you need to get your anger out, talk to friends or a therapist out of earshot of the little ones.
- THOU SHALT be gentle with yourself, take care of yourself, and remember you are doing a super-human job. This will help you to be a better mother.
- THOU SHALT think of yourself as a hero, a star, an outstanding athlete in the sport/epic of single motherhood, and, no matter what, the show must go on!
- THOU SHALT try and remember always that you are not alone and that the rewards of raising a loving child is a gift given to you from God.
WHEW… I’ve still got a lot more to type.
I hope I am really touching the life of someone through this. Make sure you share this with someone at school, in the office, at home, the park, the beach… anywhere you are. You don’t know how this will save lives; reduce the risk at which people commit suicide. Thanks again.
(I’ll get to this page after my nap…)
LOL that’s what the author did, well for me I’m going on a water-break.
Do what it takes.
- Go to sleep early
- Take a nap
- Eat very well. Pop vitamins
- Breathe fresh air. Move your body.
- Take a nap
- Ask for help
- Pray for help
- Pay for help
- Don’t take on anything else. You can’t do it all. You are going to have to prioritize. The bottom line here___ you and the kids first, everything else next.
- Learn time management
- Did I mention taking a nap?
- [we] hate to be bearer[s] of bad news but you may feel tired a lot. It will get easier the older the kids get.
- Rest when you can
- Perhaps you can learn to enjoy it?
Take a nap!